This is a question that I am asked a lot; and rightly so.
What is your opinion about sending kids to kindergarten who have summer birthdays (or those who are close to the cut off date?)As far as I know, every school district has a cut-off date for children to start Kindergarten. The school districts that I have been around have cut-offs in August or September. But, I have heard of schools waiting until December. If I had a dollar for every time that someone has asked my opinion on this matter, I would be rich! So here it goes...
I am a firm believer that if you have ANY doubt about sending your child to Kindergarten, you need to wait. We held back our oldest and will hold back Little Man as well. Because of their due dates, I knew before these boys were born that they would be held back. After telling our pediatrician this decision, she said:
I have never met a parent who regretted holding back his/her child. I have met many who regretted sending their child.Both my husband and I were sent to Kindergarten even though our birthdays were close to the cut-off date. Both of our moms would say that they wish they would have held us each back.
Here are a few things to consider:
- Just because the child is ready educationally doesn't mean that he or she is ready emotionally, physically, or socially. Very young children may require a nap or more sleep at night as going to school all day can be exhausting.
- Waiting to start a child is much easier than having to retain (repeating a grade) the child the next year. Even at a young age, retaining a child has lasting effects on the child. Effects that may not show up until later in teenage and adult life.
- The child may not show signs of struggling until he or she is older (past Kindergarten and 1st grade when it is harder to retain.)
- Paying for one more year of preschool or daycare is much cheaper than paying for tutoring and/or watching your child struggle through school.
- There is a lot of concern about boredom if you hold a child back. The boredom probably won't last more than a year, maybe two. Struggling can last many years. Another point: Don't tell your child or let him hear you mention boredom. If he hears you telling everyone he is bored, he will be bored.
- Keeping up with or competing with children who are nearly a year older can be frustrating. Holding a child back when they have a summer birthday may mean they will be more successful academically, athletically, musically, etc. by the time they are in high school.
- "All of my child's friends are going to Kindergarten." - This is a statement that I hear a lot. This happened with Bubs. At church, all of the kids moved up and he stayed back. It was rough for a a few minutes but he very quickly made new friends. Actually one of the boys that moved on is repeating Kindergarten so he is back with him!
- "But my child thinks he/she is going to Kindergarten." - Bubs was asked for many months about Kindergarten and he learned to say that Mommy and Daddy are holding him back. It truly wasn't an issue because we talked about it. If it had been, we would have handled it just like anything else - Mommy and Daddy know best.
- "But my child is already enrolled?" - This is a tough one but sometimes Mommy and Daddy's change their minds. Also, I know of schools that say at orientation (the day before school), "If you have any doubts, now is the time to change your mind. And, we will look forward to seeing you next year." A school would rather have a child who is truly ready than a child who will struggle because of their age. Plus schools have children drop all of the time!
There is not a magic formula to help you make this decision. It truly comes down to a decision that needs to be made by each family for each individual child. This is the question that I ask each person who seeks my advice...Do you want to start your child a step ahead or a step behind?
For more information check out the Kindergarten Readiness page at ABCJLM.
Disclaimer: The thoughts expressed in this post are my own and do not apply to all children. Please seek the advice of a professional for you specific situation.